Knitting is not just for femmes and girls! Anyone can be a knitter, all you have to be is willing to try, humble enough to be taught, and not worried about making mistakes. Get your needles ready, and let’s go change the world, one scarf at a time!
Step One: Meet a Knitter: This may be [...]
I came home today to the news that GLASS (Gay and Lesbian Adolescent Social Services) located in LA has filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy. The situation is obviously complex, and it sounds like there are different plans in place which I’m not qualified or interested in delving into, what struck a chord for me was [...]
I’ve been grappling with something over the past few months as I embark on a serious relationship with a woman for the first time. My femininity feels under fire by my own fucked up gender programming. The reality is that it doesn’t matter how much Judith Butler and Eve Sedgwick I read. It doesn’t matter [...]
February 19th at 7pm, Hysteria brings you Shanna Katz aka Essin’ Em. Shanna will be presenting Basics of Poly and Relationship Mapping workshop. This workshop is primarily a lecture and discussion on the ideas of polyamory, open-relationships, non-monogamous relationships, etc. In addition to talking about what poly is (and what it can and does mean [...]
Unicorn Dick is lust and sexual skill. It also refers to the almost mythological perfect butch/trans guy cock / love / brain package that we often believe is as rare as a Unicorn Dick. When we find it, we can sometimes go insane, elevate the degree to which which value it above our life and our girls, and try to hide it / protect it / get crazy over it / everything in the world pales next to the Unicorn Dick.
i’ve been thinking a lot lately about the way that femmes are so often defined and recognized by proximity to their relationship to a “more visible” partner or date. now, this is not new: we femmes spend a lot of time talking about invisibility, how to be and show off femme without a partner who [...]
We have a new site layout here on The Femme’s Guide which I’m actually pretty excited about! It’s similar to the previous layout while also being different enough to be a change.
The image to the left (if you’re reading this on the site itself) changes when the page is refreshed. Currently there are [...]
By now, most of you have read about, or at least heard about my concept of the Femme Spiral, mostly written about here.
It is visibility. It is validation. It is physical proof of belong to such a strong and powerful group of women, queers, dykes, and more.
It’s bigger than I had planned on, but I’m glad. [...]
Sometimes we need to nurture, comfort and care for ourselves if we hope to serve the world to our fullest. A lot of femmes I meet seem to fogret this fact- we are the lover, parents, warriors and poets upon whom Atlas’ load is balanced. Without us the world would crumble and fall, without us we have this feeling the turning would stop and gravity would let everything we care about fly away into the ether.
One of my comfort foods is what I have deemed Comfort Garlic Toast. I have made variatons of it since I was a child. Powdered garlic, shredded cheddar and cheap bread were all it took for my mother to make me smile on a day someone had been mean to me or when I’d not aced a test. But I’ve grown up and the idea of a pool of cheddar grease leaves me wanting. This is my version of this treat and sometimes side dish to italian, french, or american cuisine… with a bit of grown up and a lot of childhood memory.
I love red lipstick. Red lipstick makes a statement. It is not unlike a killer pair of stilettos in that it perfectly highlights hyperfeminity and sexuality. I once heard that people who wear red lipstick smile more. And, while I don’t know if that is true or not, I do know that wearing red lipstick [...]