Comments on: Femme sex and taking up space http://femmesguide.com/2009/02/femme-sex-and-taking-up-space/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=femme-sex-and-taking-up-space a sex-positive femme queer collaborative blog for femmes by femmes. Tue, 27 Jul 2010 03:43:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: K-Dub http://femmesguide.com/2009/02/femme-sex-and-taking-up-space/comment-page-1/#comment-741 K-Dub Sun, 03 May 2009 17:30:40 +0000 http://femmesguide.com/?p=870#comment-741 Thank you Ellie. Your first case study really hit home for me. I didn't know how to put into words the way I was feeling until I read your post. I have the same problem with my current partner and I wish I could offer more than just "i'm working on it" but that's really all I can say. I try to give myself affirmations and remind myself that I am feminine and it is possible for the both of us to act out our femininity in bed together but how this actually plays out, is sometimes problematic. Anyway, thanks a lot. <3! Thank you Ellie. Your first case study really hit home for me. I didn’t know how to put into words the way I was feeling until I read your post. I have the same problem with my current partner and I wish I could offer more than just “i’m working on it” but that’s really all I can say. I try to give myself affirmations and remind myself that I am feminine and it is possible for the both of us to act out our femininity in bed together but how this actually plays out, is sometimes problematic. Anyway, thanks a lot. <3!

]]> By: Sublimefemme http://femmesguide.com/2009/02/femme-sex-and-taking-up-space/comment-page-1/#comment-602 Sublimefemme Wed, 25 Feb 2009 03:36:37 +0000 http://femmesguide.com/?p=870#comment-602 Ellie, You don't sound "fucked in the head to me!" I think that many of us struggle with the stereotypes you mention, including seeing femininity and agression/power as mutually exclusive. I guess one question I have is whether this issue and the space issue are concerns for you outside the bedroom. Personally I've always thought that the notion that our sexual practices should line up with our politics is a losing proposition. What about giving yourself permission to embrace your contradictions? That's worked for me. Thanks for this brave post. xo SF <abbr><em>Sublimefemme’s last blog post..<a href="http://sublimefemme.wordpress.com/2009/02/24/sublimefemme-tells-all-no-18/" rel="nofollow">Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 18</a></abbr></em> Ellie,

You don’t sound “fucked in the head to me!” I think that many of us struggle with the stereotypes you mention, including seeing femininity and agression/power as mutually exclusive.

I guess one question I have is whether this issue and the space issue are concerns for you outside the bedroom. Personally I’ve always thought that the notion that our sexual practices should line up with our politics is a losing proposition. What about giving yourself permission to embrace your contradictions? That’s worked for me.

Thanks for this brave post.

xo
SF

Sublimefemme’s last blog post..Sublimefemme Tells All, No. 18

]]> By: Wretched and Beautiful : links for 2009-02-17 http://femmesguide.com/2009/02/femme-sex-and-taking-up-space/comment-page-1/#comment-579 Wretched and Beautiful : links for 2009-02-17 Tue, 17 Feb 2009 23:02:26 +0000 http://femmesguide.com/?p=870#comment-579 [...] Femme sex and taking up space | The Femme's Guide Awesome post from Ellie. She lays herself out here with honesty and vulnerability. That's part of what makes me love her writing. (tags: sexuality gender) [...] [...] Femme sex and taking up space | The Femme's Guide Awesome post from Ellie. She lays herself out here with honesty and vulnerability. That's part of what makes me love her writing. (tags: sexuality gender) [...]

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