genderqueering up your bathroom the femme way!

I want to start this blog by saying that no one does domestic like a femme, but I don’t like the connotations attached to that, because the best cooks I know are butches (included at the top of that list is my partner)  etc. etc. etc. That said, there is a specific sort of domesticity that I find to be tied to some specific specimens of the femme species.

My beliefs about this were cemented further just a couple of weeks ago when a rather large package arrived from my favorite Irish femme friend! The package included gifts for my house, as well as items to be auctioned in the benefit auction part of the NYC release event for my anthology Kicked Out.

Kestryl and I sat in the middle of our living room floor and read what was a beautiful letter composed on what appears to be gorgeous handmade paper with bits of flowers imbedded into it.  In the letter Dani explained that she was upset to realize it would not be simple to find “Her” & “Her” decorative towels when she meets the lovely lady she wants to share the rest of her life with, and then thought of Kestryl and our genderneutral pronouns and how difficult towels would be to locate:

“I then realized that a “Hir” & “Hir”….was also not available and I wondered if it was something of an issue in NY too. Can you walk into a shop and just pick up a monogrammed set of towels for a wonderfully diverse queer couple?”

To be honest, the thought had never crossed my mind! That said, In the moment I began thinking and was quite confident that it would not be a simple matter to walk into a boutique even here in a city like New York and leave with “Hir” & “Hir” towels. To be honest I’d never thought of wanting them before, but reading her letter I realized quite suddenly clearly our bathroom needed them!!! But, where on earth could we find some?!?!  I needn’t have worried, because Danni is the sort of femme that thinks of these things, and when she had realized these were not easily accessible options she went ahead and had some custom made for our bathroom !!!!!

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