Dear The Femme’s Guide

I’m sorry I’ve been neglecting you for so long, my darling. It’s not something I meant to do, but there have been many changes in my life recently and, to be honest, I’m worried about the safeness of your space. This is something I need to remedy, but I haven’t had the drive to do so. I’ve also been going through a lot of changes in regard to my gender, and while femme definitely fits me I’m trying to figure out how to express the gender-fluid femme boi that I have inside of me, not only physically but also through writing.

I’ve also been thinking about ways to change you, especially as you’ve just turned one year old. I want to make you more of a community resource, as that was the idea all along, but I’ve been thinking of better ways to do that. I’m going to start sharing you with more people, something I know you will like as well, allowing people to submit their own posts to be published instead of limiting the publishing to a distinct few.

I want to see more diversity on you, though I’ve been saying that from the beginning I haven’t done a lot to support it. Although we do have a bit of diversity among the authors it is not enough for me.

My comment policy is also something I’ve been working on for a while. I need you to be a safe space, both for myself and others to express our feelings without worry of mean comments. Respective constructive comments, sure, but downright offensive or mean ones will not be tolerated. I mean to create something like Kate Harding’s comment policy for you, but I haven’t gotten around to it.

I want to add more pictures to your layout as well, an idea I had when I first started working on this layout with it’s rotating images to the left, but something I haven’t put much into practice. (If you reading this have an image you would like to see there please send it to femmesguide AT gmail.com.)

So, TFG, while I know I’ve been neglecting you I’ve also been thinking a lot about you, but have been distracted by other projects and my own thing, just as Bevin talked about. It’s not you, it’s me, promise, but I’m trying to get better at writing.

Happy Birthday!

Yours,
Scarlet Lotus

Other posts by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

• Remember to Breathe - June 23rd, 2010
• Review: Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels - August 21st, 2009
• Interviewees needed for Butch/Femme Identity Study - July 8th, 2009
• Visible: A Femmethology - Virtual Tour Day - April 7th, 2009
• Culinary Comfort: Curry Bake - April 6th, 2009

Tags: changes, femme, gender, images, layout