Remember to Breathe

If you are like me, or most of the femmes I know, you are busy. Non-stop, perhaps. You have work and/or school, projects, interests, hobbies, friends, groups, lovers, and all manner of fabulous things that take up all of your waking hours. Sure, you say, everyone is busy. Well, that’s true, and this message isn’t only reserved for femmes, it’s valid for everyone who is busy, it’s just my experience that femmes tend to be actively busy, always doing or creating something, taking part of something, actively using their time rather than passively passing it. This is probably not true for every femme everywhere, but from my experience the femmes I know are busy busy busy.

This is your reminder to breathe. It’s hard for me to not have my awareness shift to my breath when someone tells me to breathe, I’m even doing so unconsciously while I’m writing this, so I hope that is the case for you too. Take in a few nice deep breaths as you continue to read this.

My point is not just about breath but also a reminder to take time for yourself, make sure your needs are being met, and tune in with your body. Taking a moment or many moments to check in with where you are, what you are doing, and where you are going.

Perhaps reading this blog is you taking time for yourself, reading the writings of other femmes in hope of finding out more about others and yourself, if so, fabulous, you’re already doing what I’m trying to remind you of. For others it might be taking a bubble bath, reading a book, spending time with a lover (or more), or any sort of calming activity (though the last I mentioned may not be calming in the same sense).

I find that, while I love to be busy and to have a million and one projects going, have all of my time micromanaged to the point of near exhaustion, I also love being able to take time for myself, decompress, and remember why I’m doing all that stuff in the first place.

Like I said, you may be doing this already, but just in case you’re not this is your reminder.

-Scarlet Lotus

Other posts by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

• Guest Post: My Femme Role Model - August 26th, 2010
• Dear The Femme's Guide - August 22nd, 2009
• Review: Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels - August 21st, 2009
• Interviewees needed for Butch/Femme Identity Study - July 8th, 2009
• Visible: A Femmethology - Virtual Tour Day - April 7th, 2009

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