Hi, I have a couple of questions. I currently don’t have a label yet, because I am not labeling my sexual orientation until I have a relationship with a woman or encounters in which I can completely label my sexual orientation. But for now, I could call myself bi-curious. So anyways… how would a lipstick [...]
Back when I was still coming into myself as a non-butch women-loving woman, perhaps a “baby femme” if you will, I had deeply rooted reservations regarding being the aggressor in a relationship, or even just in flirtation. I passed up many a prime opportunity, maybe even missing out on what could have been great relationships, [...]
Oddly enough, I don’t recall any huge instances where I had to come out to anyone else. Even coming out as non-straight to my parents was no big deal. I haven’t had to deal with a huge amount of the “femme invisibility” issue that seems to plague many of us, for whatever reason. Back when [...]
I think I understand now why I was having such an issue with my femmeinism before. I was in the wrong career field! And maybe this is just my own personal difficulty – I imagine some femmes could probably be garbage truck drivers and still rock their femmeininity, but I’m one of those whose environment [...]
Well, it’s about that time of the year. The time of the year when the year ends. 2008 has had its ups and downs, but above all it has been a year of great change. Political and socioeconomic change – do I even have to mention that whole first black U.S. President bit? – but [...]
Allow me to begin by explaining that I go through phases with my hair. During one phase I want to grow it out; during another I want to hack it all off and just not worry about it. I recently got over a growing out phase. It was almost to mid-back – actually, it was [...]
Sex vs. Gender An interesting concept, the thought of sex versus gender as though they were two opposing fighters in the boxing ring. Think about it – how often on, say, applications or other miscellaneous forms do you see “Gender: M___ F___” or “Sex: M___ F___?” (The fact that there are only two genders [...]
Can A Femme Be Butch Too? I’m sitting here on my couch – okay, futon – belly full of awesome Thai food, agonizing over the fact that it’s been too long since I’ve updated my portion of TFG, then agonizing even more over the fact that I cannot think of a single thing to [...]
..And hence, the very nature of Femme is revealed. Last night I performed at a local community bellydance venue. Cue bouncy Egyptian music and sparkly bra-and-belt costumes, right? Wronnnnng! My solo was to “Black Betty” by Spiderbait, and my costume consisted of grey-black jeans under a black sequined miniskirt and silver coin belt, and a black [...]
So, I’m new here. *cue chorus of hellos* And for the past couple of days, I’ve been racking my brain – and even the posts of this very blog – for any kind of inspiration. Naturally, now that I’m here, I don’t have a clue in hell what to write. Except that again and again, [...]
