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**An Open Letter From Madison Young**

Hello lovely people,

As you may or may not know, I not only perform in some of your favorite adult films and bondage sites but I’m also an artist and activist who runs a progressive art gallery in San Francisco, Femina Potens Art Gallery (www.feminapotens.org)

Femina Potens has provided hundreds or art exhibits, spoken word events, multi-media programs, film screenings and educational work shops over the past 8 years that reflect the experiences of women, transgendered, kink, and sex worker communities.  We need all of your support in order to continue to provide such resources to the community and create visibility for cutting edge artists.

With our new sustainer program you can donate as little as $10 a month, a tax deductible donation, and at the same time become part of a movement of artists pushing boundaries around identity, sex, feminism, public health, and queering how together as a community we engage with art.

Help support visibility and connection of the queer community through the arts.  Nurture your community by sustaining the only non-profit art gallery in the Castro and the country’s only queer public arts program.

Femina Potens is an all ages community funded gallery and is a reflection of all of us.  We encourage you to become a member.  Connecting Communities by Queering Concepts of Art and Sex.

Go to http://www.feminapotens.org to become a sustainer today.  Sustainers also receive such benefits as free tickets to Femina Potens events, VIP art events, and discounts on art purchases.

Thank you so much for your support.

xo,
Madison Young

Anybody up for an amazing clitoral and g-spot orgasm?!  Now that I’ve got your attention :)  I’m a day late and a dollar short.  New Toy Tuesday was pre-empted for election coverage.  We now return you to your kinky program already in progress…

The We-Vibe is a fantastic little invention!  It looks like a little clamp - one end slides nicely inside and against your g-spot while the other end vibrates your clitoris on the outside.  The result?  Intense G-spot and clitoral orgasmic bliss!!  It’s different than any other vibe/dildo I own, but in a GOOD way!

Forget about batteries and cords - the We-Vibe has its own charger and you just have to reach in the drawer, unplug it and use it.  Oh, and the case that comes with it keeps the drawer schmutz off of the silicone so you don’t have fuzzies and drawer fur on it when you need it!  So you have a really nice, top-drawer vibe that is rechargeable and comes with its own case.  Did I mention I really like the We-Vibe?!

Okay, so here’s the surprise twist I alluded to last week — the We-Vibe isn’t just for the ladies.  When I get new toys I like to experiment with them and find all the ways that Marky and I can enjoy them together.   While the We-Vibe is a woman’s vibe, no doubt, it is also really fun to use on men!  Back at the top of this post I said that the We-Vibe looks like a little clamp, right?  It’s very flexible, you can open it up and pinch it closed.  So I opened it up wider, wrapped it around Marky’s balls and then brought him to orgasm by stroking his cock at the same time.  According to Marky, the We-Vibe is perfect!!  The two ends vibrating together around his balls gave him an intense (dare I say copious) orgasm.  Who knew?!  I’m telling you, if there’s a way to get off, we’ll find it!

So there you have it folks.  I love the We-Vibe.  It does exactly what it’s supposed to - a clitoral/g-spot orgasm is the best!  I’ve only experienced it before with the Hitachi and the Gspot attachment as I rested the Hitachi against my clit - but that’s a little intense.  The We-Vibe is especially designed for just the right spots and I could kiss the designer of this little magic toy right on the lips!

Still looking for a reason to order your We-Vibe today?  I have a good one!  Because if you order through me, I’m donating all of my commission in November to be doubled by VibeReview.com and sent to the Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund.  So not only are you making a smart purchase, but you’re making a difference for one very ill woman!

Thanks again, to VibeReview.com for sending me great products to test out and report on, but especially for helping The Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund by encouraging affiliates to donate their commissions.  In times like these, it’s difficult enough to pay your own mortgage (in my case, rent) so to be able to help without it cutting into my pocketbook is a fantastic way to raise money for such an important cause!  If you aren’t already an affiliate for VibeReview.com, get your fanny over there and sign up!  I’ve been working with them now for about a year and I have only good things to say about their entire company!  Just ask me.

Click the Heart To Help The Butterfly Temptress

Never fear! I have more toys to review and report on, in fact I was planning to write about the We-Vibe today, which has an interesting twist to it, but I postponed it until next week to talk about VibeReview.com and The Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund.

You see, recently it came to my attention that one of my friends was about to be cut off of her cancer treatments and pain management program because of she falls into that gap of making too much for the government to help and not making enough/underinsured to pay the medical bills that are pouring in as a result of chemotherapy and radiation treatment for her stage IV cervical cancer that has spread throughout her system. The thought of denying treatment and pain medication to a human being diagnosed with cancer is so incomprehensible to me - it’s inhumane. What kind of a country do we live in?!

Her only choice is to turn to her CommUNITY, my CommUNITY, your CommUNITY for help. Times are tough though and even people who want to donate don’t have it. I’m one of them. You might be, too. You can still help, though!

I contacted my friends at VibeReview.com to see if there was any way that they could help. They are a small company, but were just as impassioned as I was to do what they could do. On top of a financial sponsorship for part of the series, Life.Love.Cancer, on BestSexBloggers.com, VibeReview has agreed to allow affiliates to join in the fight. Now VibeReview.com affiliates can choose to donate their November commissions to The Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund. VibeReview.com has agreed to double the amount and donate it to The Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund.

If you are already a VibeReview.com affiliate, simply check the box on the registration page and VibeReview will take care of the rest. If you are not a VibeReview.com affiliate and you’d like to help, please do sign up. It’s fast, it’s easy, making links is as simple as click, copy, paste, and heck, after the fundraiser you could earn 20% of anything someone buys as a result of clicking from your link. It’s not going to feed your family, necessarily, but it will add up and you can buy that fabulous pair of shoes you know you want but would never buy unless you had extra money.

I encourage you to get involved - in any way you can - spread the word, join up, click the box, and make a real difference. It’s something we all say we want to do - now is the time to do it. We can make a difference. If you in a position to donate money directly to the Butterfly Temptress Cancer Fund, you can do so directly through her paypal link on my page or on TheButterflyTemptress.com.

Special Thanks to VibeReview.com for choosing compassion over profit. They truly are my first choice when it comes to online toy stores. I’ve worked with them all, and while some are good, there is a reason I exclusively promote VibeReview.com and this solidifies that exclusive relationship I have with them. When I say Catalina loves VibeReview.com, I’m 100% sincere.

My Hero - The Hitachi Magic Wand!

The Hitachi Magic Wand is a product that really needs no introduction. Practically everybody has at least heard of amazing orgasms induced by the Magic Wand and when you add the G-spot attachment to it, it becomes a vibrator superhero. I’m not going to go on and on telling you about how my Magic Wand is never out of reach of my bed. I won’t spend this entire review saying how much I appreciate that it’s powered by electricity, so I never have to worry about getting almost there only to have the batteries die (rechargeable or otherwise). Instead of tell you how the Hitachi Magic Wand has lasted me for years and years of almost daily use, I decided to write 5 reasons why I love my Hitachi Magic Wand. If you haven’t used one yet, you’ll want to after you read this:

1. Strong clitoral orgasms that leave your knees shaking. It doesn’t have to be just a masturbation toy - sometimes while Marky is fucking me from behind, I’ve got the Magic Wand nestled between my legs on my clit so that I have the extra stimulation. Every thrust of his pushes my clit harder against it until, if we’re lucky and our timing is good, I can have a G-spot orgasm a clitoral orgasm and he can come at the same time. This is the reason why staying up until 3:30 am for sex when you have to be up at 7 am with kids is worth it sometimes!

2. G-spot orgasm after G-spot orgasm (my first squirting orgasms were from the Hitachi w/ attachment). It was like the day I turned 35 my G-spot came to life. It is more likely that I didn’t get my hands on the attachment until then. The G-spot attachment is sturdy and smooth - it slides in so nicely - whether you’re using it yourself or on another.

3. Using the attachment on Marky’s ass (or hearing about how he did it himself while masturbating). You didn’t think this was just a woman’s toy, did you? That same attachment touches the exact right spot for a prostate orgasm. From what Marky tells me, it’s an amazing orgasm that comes (no pun intended) in two waves, first the initial spurt of ejaculation and then a “lava flow” of prostate ejaculate, a thicker and distinct ejaculation. Being a cumslut, naturally, I love to watch this happen.

4. Having it used on me while I’m bound and helpless. Sometimes you want it to be in just the right place so badly but the top just won’t put it right there, a tease and denial game that causes your body to try to find the vibrator the way a seedling heliotropes. Knowing that your partner is going to control your orgasm is extremely arousing mentally. The physical satisfaction is a given.

5. Using it on others for forced orgasms. I love to watch women as they squirm around the tip of the Hitachi Magic Wand, trying to place their clits just right against it so they can come. I love to watch a woman’s face the first time she feels the horn of the G-spot attachment vibrate against her G-spot intensely and then watch as I change the speed from slow to fast and then remove it and play with her until she is nearly mad for that orgasm. I love to slide it into a man’s ass while gently stroking his cock or taking it into my mouth - the combination is nothing short of magical, or so I hear.

So there you have it - if it weren’t abundantly clear before, the Hitachi Magic Wand and the G-spot attachment are staples of any good toybox. It should be the first thing a young woman buys for herself when she goes off to college, it should be a wedding gift, men should buy it for their girlfriend or wife and women should buy it for their men - heck, it should be for sale in the waiting room of the marriage therapist’s office. It’s one of those toys that has so successfully been marketed as a ::wink wink:: massager, that you can have one without really worrying about the social stigma that can be attached with sex toys.

All I can say is, I feel sorry for the poor soul without an Hitachi Magic Wand - you are really missing out! Go straight to VibeReview.com and buy one - if you use this coupon code, you’ll even get 10% off through election day.

We Love Madison Young!

Madison Young has twice impressed me with her movies. The first time, with Undone, which turned me on so much that I personally recommend it to friends in real life and this time with Lesbian Life: Real Sex San Francisco. In Lesbian Life, Madison sets out as a very trendy sex writer who is in San Francisco looking for the next big hot spot to write about. What she finds during her adventure varies from hot sex in bike shops with smudged and dirty mechanics and a tattoo shop that leaves a lasting impression to public sex on romantic picnics, but no matter what the scene, Madison’s reputation of authenticity holds up - real lesbians and real sex.

Now here is where I think Madison is not only sexy, but smart as hell - she fills in a niche of a niche with a great movie. Lesbian porn is its own little niche in the adult entertainment industry, but real lesbian porn is even more so and good real lesbian porn is nearly impossible to find! This movie isn’t for Johnny Jackoff who wants to watch big boobed blonds go down on each other and pretend to like it. This movie is for Jane Jackoff, who wants to watch real lesbians having real lesbian sex.

I can’t really sum it up any better than the back of the DVD that states, “This is the way women really fuck!”

Thanks again, Madison, for sending me your movie to review. I love watching your movies -please send more!

Big Momma by Altered Aperture (http://alteredaperture.com)

Imagine 12 of NYC’s best sex-positive writers, educators, and film makers working on the same project for a good cause - all proceeds benefit Audacia Ray’s Sex Work Awareness Project. The NYC Sex Bloggers 2009 Calendar Project has officially been launched. The theme: NYC style burlesque and pin-up. What began as as a little “what if…” has materialized into a project that is underway and on schedule for release soon!

So who are these dynamic women I’m going on about? They are

• Audacia Ray
• Desiree
• Diva
• Elizabeth Wood
• Jamye Waxman
• Lux Alptraum
• Mariella
• Rachel Kramer Bussel
• Riese
• Sinclair Sexsmith
• Tess Danesi
• Twanna A Hines

Oh, and a contest! I love contests because I love to give things away!!
The first 7 bloggers to write a post on your blog that sends people to the NYC Calendar Project: http://www.sexbloggercalendar.wordpress.com/ and send the link to me (catalinaloves@gmail.com) will each win a day on the calendar. In other words, instead of “buying a day”, you can have your blog url on your day, or any personal message - you can wish them luck or send a greeting to your favorite blogger (me) or celebrate your birthday or anniversary - up to 80 characters will be printed on your day.

Now go and read all about the project!

Image courtesy of mzberlinsblog.com

Hooray Hooray, for Cleavage of the Day!  And sometimes, shoes, too!

One comment I hear over and over is that I have very interesting friends, and indeed that is true.  Take, for example, my friend, Tess.  She’s to be blamed for distracting me every day with her Cleavage of the Day and today I had to interrupt both her work and mine to talk about her shoes!  Boobs and shoes.  I’m in bi-femme girl heaven!

http://www.daciaslovemachine.com

Audacia Ray’s new short film, “Dacia’s Love Machine” has been released! The 25-minute director’s cut is available online in .mp4 and .flv and is only $2.99 to download. Pathetic, but true fact, downloading this film costs less than the gas it would take to drive to my nearest Starbucks to hang out with a friend over coffee.

I have seen it and it is hilarious. Obviously it’s a movie about a fucking machine, but ultimately it’s a comedy and the fucking machine is really the star.

You see, Dacia originally received the Love Machine to review. As I recall, it was something along the lines of her orgasm being in spite of, not the result of the Love Machine and so she was less than thrilled to have it laying around her house, so she put an ad on Craigslist:

Sex machine for sale (not a person, an actual machine) - w4mw - 27
Date: 2007-12-03, 9:37PM EST

So I’m a sex toy reviewer, and a little over a year ago I acquired a fucking machine to review (Topco brand, it retails at $395). It’s kinda big, and I really want it out of my apartment. It has all but one attachment (the one I used, which I will throw away), and technically it is lightly used.

Yes, it’s true, I’m trying to sell my lightly used sex machine on CL. I’m asking $100 for it, you come pick it and get it out of my life. It’s manageable to get it on the subway (probably easier with two people), but I recommend wrapping the box in brown paper or something, since it has pictures and words that will make your package very obvious.

CL doesn’t allow me to post the link to the review, but go to fleshbot[dot]com and search “Marital Aid Test Kitchen: The Fucking Love Machine,” and scroll down to the bottom of the page - the review was posted on October 20, 2006.

She filters through the responses, some of which are so outlandish that I had to ask her, “Did people really respond that way?” To which she replied, “Yes, all of those responses are genuine!” WOW! A study in strange humanology, but I love to peek through the door of the crazy world in which we live. Human nature only gets more and more curious as people stop by to look at the machine in person.

Click the picture to go to www.daciaslovemachine.com and download the movie. The first twenty five people who buy the download get a free sex toy courtesy of EdenFantasys - you have your choice between a pocket rocket and a masturbation sleeve.

Seriously, I personally guarantee you that this will be the best $3.00 you spent today ($2.99, actually). Marky and I got to preview the film and we both thought it was clever, funny, curious, voyeuristic, entertaining, and did I mention funny? Now go! Enjoy 25 minutes of unique entertainment.

Lily by Lelo

Classy.  Sophisticated.  Discreet.  Three words that sum up the entire Lelo line, but in particular today I’m talking about Lily.  I have a few Lelo products now, and they are all a little bit different.  Their dildo vibrators are definitely top of the line!  I have even tested out and reviewed their exercise/pleasure system, the Luna Beads.  This time, I had the opportunity to try something different, so I chose Lily.

Just like every Lelo product, the Lily comes in an elegant package with a charger and a satin pouch.   It is such an upscale clitoral vibrator that it wouldn’t even raise an eyebrow of suspicion that it’s a little bundle of pleasure.  For that reason, exactly, I have recommended the Lily to a friend of mine as a nice gift for his girlfriend as a travel surprise in her carry-on bag.   He was very specific about his request - something that she would not get hassled for in security, something that didn’t need batteries, and something that was classy enough for a very sophisticated and worldly woman.

Well, the Lily isn’t just for the well-traveled, cosmopolitan, Manolo Blahnik wearing woman.  Everyday women and moms all over America have to keep in mind that your children might come across your sex toys.  Yes, I have a teenager and I have to keep in mind that she’ll be coming in my room at some point in the morning, which means discretion is important to me.  If she walks in my room looking for her missing shoe and finds a giant dildo on the nightstand, that’s not cool.  If she walks in my room looking for said shoe and the Lily is on my nightstand, she wouldn’t give it a second glance.  This stuff matters to us!

Lily is more than just a pretty face though - she is a sweet little clitoral vibrator.  The function is pretty simple - two buttons: (-) and (+) do everything you can imagine and then some.  Aside from decreasing and increasing the intensity of the vibration, the (+) button also gives you access to some pre-set vibe patterns and settings,and the combination of the two buttons held down together locks and unlocks it so it doesn’t start vibrating in your handbag unexpectedly.

I must admit, after using the Hitachi Magic Wand for years, I was worried if the Lily would “get me there.”   Unlike the Hitachi, there isn’t the instant wowsa.  This is good though.  What happens is a gradual build-up, a sexual tension that builds, and then finally a beautiful orgasm that is less intense than the Hitachi, in my experience.  Again, in my opinion, this is a good thing.  Sometimes the Hitachi is so intense that it’s just instant “yow” and I can’t get it off my clit fast enough - with Lily, I found that I was able to ride out the intensity and go for another.  So my first experience with Lily got me there not just once, but twice, quite nicely.  It’s worth noting that I did this right next to my husband without waking him (poor Marky was so tired, I didn’t have the heart to wake him up to get me off).

Obviously I can’t say enough about Lily.  I’m once again convinced that Lelo makes a superior product - it’s design and look are beautiful, the packaging makes it discreet, it performs almost silently and very subtly.  It brings you to a state of pleasure and then orgasm again and again, making it an A+ sex toy in my book.

Order Lily Using This Online Coupon Code And Get 10% Off through Election Day!

My recent post about why I love being a sex writer prompted me to write a post here about why I love being a femme.

You see, as I see it, I can dip my toes in the stream and the creek - in the ocean and the seas.  As it’s been pointed out recently in our discussions here, being femme can mean so many things to so many people.  To me, it means I have more choice.

As I see it, as a femme I can get all dressed up, put on the little black Audrey Hepburn dress and put my hair up and wear gorgeous jewelry, cuban stockings, and heels and be stunningly gorgeous.  It means I can go to the make-up counter on a blergy day and get a make-over just because I want the pick me up.    I get the girly side, or as I like to call it the frosting side.  The perks of being a girl, as I see it.

Because also as a femme I can hang out in my cute little pajamas and tank top without makeup and still look just as femme and cute.

I can wear jeans and tennis shoes and a school soccer shirt and I’m a MILF.

But aside from the aesthetic flexibility to the social dress code from which I benefit as a femme, I have the added benefit of double dipping as a poly queer femme in the sex pool, if you’ll forgive the pun.

I feel like as a queer femme I have a lot of choices in terms of sexual partners.  I am attracted to men and women of all types and it seems that men and women of all types seem to enjoy the company of a slutty queer femme.   I enjoy a sexy man every bit as much as I enjoy a sexy woman, but for very different reasons.  I love sleeping on both sides of the bed of masculinity and femininity.  I love being the third in a threesome or the center of attention with two men.

I think I get the best of both worlds as a queer femme.  It’s something I identify with so strongly that I can’t imagine being any other way than the way I am.  To conceive of myself as a queer butch is as difficult to envision as it is for me to envision being a stay-at-home heterosexual (monoromantic) housewife.  Please don’t get your feathers ruffled, housewives and butches, I just mean for me I can’t even imagine it.  The thought of me packing just makes me giggle.  The idea of me being sexually active with just one man for the rest of my life makes me uneasy.  A queer femme I am.  Indeed.