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I have been there. So much of what he said is me. It’s reassuring my partner(s) that their gender is perfect, whatever it may be. It is figuring out sex with someone without pronouns, a cock or a cunt. It’s freezing my ass off because god-damn-it this dress looks good and I want people to see it. It’s buying lingerie that I may never wear in front of a partner, because *I* look good in it, and that matters to me. It’s matching my sex toy collection to my wardrobe.
It is so many things, and most of these things I’ve discovered and embaced not from other femmes (although they’ve reinforced it), but from friends, partners, authors, and performers who love and admire femmes. And to all of you, I say thank you.
Define Femme. Now stop. Did you define YOUR femme-ness, what femme-ness looks like to you, and how you embody it? Or perhaps what femme looks like or is in those femmes that you happen to be attract to? Or did you happen to come up with a definition that embodies all Femme? If you chose [...]
February 19th at 7pm, Hysteria brings you Shanna Katz aka Essin’ Em. Shanna will be presenting Basics of Poly and Relationship Mapping workshop. This workshop is primarily a lecture and discussion on the ideas of polyamory, open-relationships, non-monogamous relationships, etc. In addition to talking about what poly is (and what it can and does mean [...]
By now, most of you have read about, or at least heard about my concept of the Femme Spiral, mostly written about here. It is visibility. It is validation. It is physical proof of belong to such a strong and powerful group of women, queers, dykes, and more. It’s bigger than I had planned on, but [...]
Please repost! Thank you. -Essin’ Em Do you identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, bi-curious, queer, questioning, or otherwise same-sex attracted? Are you of African American or Latina descent? Are you age 18 and older? Even if you prefer not to label yourself, we are interested in your experience! I am a doctoral student at [...]
If you listened to my interview with Trouble (creator, owner and photographer for NoFauxxx.com) on RadioDentata (you can go directly to my player here), you already know what I’m about to say. If you missed it, you can listen to it tonight at 9pm EST (6pm PST), or again at 3am EST (Midnight PST). She [...]
I get sent a lot of sex toys to review. But as much as I love sex toys, I also love reading. I like reading erotica, I like reading sex writing, and I like reading educational books. SexToy.com understands my love and need for words on paper, and was kind enough to send me Two [...]
This Friday January 16th at 7pm Femina Potens brings you Shanna Katz aka Essin’ Em. Essin’ Em will be presenting Basics of Poly and Relationship Mapping workshop. This workshop is primarily a lecture and discussion on the ideas of polyamory, open-relationships, non-monogamous relationships, etc. In addition to talking about what poly is (and what it [...]
So I had this new super part time job doing promotional marketing. Like 3-5 hours a week. Of course, now that we’re in the economy crisis, they’ve cut out their street team, but that’s beside the point. On the first day working in the field (and by “in the field,” I mean taking pictures and [...]
I have a thing for vampires. Just in general. Even before Twilight was written, I was going gaga over blood suckers. I even did a ridiculous vampire shoot with Chris back in August. I like being bitten. I’m always cold…but yet I don’t wear socks, or really jackets. I rarely sleep, and am up all [...]
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