I know this month’s topic is on femme community—I’m working on that one right now, but I heard the best story this weekend about a femme out in California and I had to share. Someplace in California, there is a 6 ft 3 femme walking around in stilettos, prepared to kill. Let me back up. [...]
i have a whole bunch of blog posts that I’m working on getting finished including some great books and music I want to share with all of you, and of course my response to this months Femmes Guide Writing Prompt (I’m actually working on writing that this morning) but I wanted to share a little [...]
Hi, I have a couple of questions. I currently don’t have a label yet, because I am not labeling my sexual orientation until I have a relationship with a woman or encounters in which I can completely label my sexual orientation. But for now, I could call myself bi-curious. So anyways… how would a lipstick [...]
It is often said that, “No man is an island,” but I’ve noticed that a lot of femmes seem to be lonely and solitary structures; islands inhabited by only one; or peacefully orbiting planets comfortable keeping just to themselves. I’ve come across a great number of reasons for this– all of them legitimate, most of [...]
So it might not come to much of a surprise to folks but I’m out, like really out. Out as queer, out as femme, out as leather, and transgender, and all manner of other lovely identities along the spectrum of queerness. I’m also really privileged in that even as a femme it’s not all that [...]
Back when I was still coming into myself as a non-butch women-loving woman, perhaps a “baby femme” if you will, I had deeply rooted reservations regarding being the aggressor in a relationship, or even just in flirtation. I passed up many a prime opportunity, maybe even missing out on what could have been great relationships, [...]
My grandmother used to sew a new Easter dress every year, which inevitably turned out to be my favorite dress until the following Easter. There was a period of time when I was a little girl where despite climbing trees, running and playing, I refused to wear pants. It was not because girls shouldn’t wear [...]
Here is my contribution to the theme of defining femme. This is a poem I started many years ago. It’s gone through countless edits and will probably never be fully finished. I welcome you all to add your own stanza(s) and see what magic can come from a collective effort! I am femme like steel [...]
Define Femme. Now stop. Did you define YOUR femme-ness, what femme-ness looks like to you, and how you embody it? Or perhaps what femme looks like or is in those femmes that you happen to be attract to? Or did you happen to come up with a definition that embodies all Femme? If you chose [...]
Oddly enough, I don’t recall any huge instances where I had to come out to anyone else. Even coming out as non-straight to my parents was no big deal. I haven’t had to deal with a huge amount of the “femme invisibility” issue that seems to plague many of us, for whatever reason. Back when [...]
