This is your reminder to breathe. It’s hard for me to not have my awareness shift to my breath when someone tells me to breathe, I’m even doing so unconsciously while I’m writing this, so I hope that is the case for you too. Take in a few nice deep breaths as you continue to read this.

My point is not just about breath but also a reminder to take time for yourself, make sure your needs are being met, and tune in with your body. Taking a moment or many moments to check in with where you are, what you are doing, and where you are going.

Perhaps reading this blog is you taking time for yourself, reading the writings of other femmes in hope of finding out more about others and yourself, if so, fabulous, you’re already doing what I’m trying to remind you of. For others it might be taking a bubble bath, reading a book, spending time with a lover (or more), or any sort of calming activity (though the last I mentioned may not be calming in the same sense).

I find that, while I love to be busy and to have a million and one projects going, have all of my time micromanaged to the point of near exhaustion, I also love being able to take time for myself, decompress, and remember why I’m doing all that stuff in the first place.

Like I said, you may be doing this already, but just in case you’re not this is your reminder.

-Scarlet Lotus

I’ve also been thinking about ways to change you, especially as you’ve just turned one year old. I want to make you more of a community resource, as that was the idea all along, but I’ve been thinking of better ways to do that. I’m going to start sharing you with more people, something I know you will like as well, allowing people to submit their own posts to be published instead of limiting the publishing to a distinct few.

I want to see more diversity on you, though I’ve been saying that from the beginning I haven’t done a lot to support it. Although we do have a bit of diversity among the authors it is not enough for me.

My comment policy is also something I’ve been working on for a while. I need you to be a safe space, both for myself and others to express our feelings without worry of mean comments. Respective constructive comments, sure, but downright offensive or mean ones will not be tolerated. I mean to create something like Kate Harding’s comment policy for you, but I haven’t gotten around to it.

I want to add more pictures to your layout as well, an idea I had when I first started working on this layout with it’s rotating images to the left, but something I haven’t put much into practice. (If you reading this have an image you would like to see there please send it to femmesguide AT gmail.com.)

So, TFG, while I know I’ve been neglecting you I’ve also been thinking a lot about you, but have been distracted by other projects and my own thing, just as Bevin talked about. It’s not you, it’s me, promise, but I’m trying to get better at writing.

Happy Birthday!

Yours,
Scarlet Lotus

Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels is a two-for-the-price-of-one DVD from Jackie Strano and Shar Rednour by their production company S.I.R. Video Productions. It was the 2001 AVN Winner of Best All-Girl Feature and is a DVD I’ve been lusting after for almost that long.

I remember walking into the Babeland here in Seattle many many years ago and seeing a display of queer porn including this DVD and one of their other productions Sugar High Glitter City (review coming soon). Immediately I was drawn to it, a budding femme at the time, and I longed to buy it but I was broke at the time. It’s been on my mind many times since that day so long ago, but I never got around to picking it up, until now.

I’ve only recently become aware of the many wonderful porn companies out there who are, as S.I.R. Video proudly proclaims, “100% dyke produced.” My other two porn reviews are of similarly queer productions and I enjoyed them immensely.

Shar Rednour wrote the book on femme (quite literally in fact–she wrote The Femme’s Guide to the Universe) so I knew these movies would be full of butch/femme goodness, and I was not disappointed. Both films were very much butch/femme based, and How to Fuck in High Heels shows us femme in a way that’s unusual to see (but not unusual to happen): Shar Rednour is the ultimate femme top.

In both Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels all the dildos are made by Vixen Creations, and when we watched it Marla and I were trying to figure out which toy was which. Some of them look specially made in gorgeous marbled colors like pink and black, teal, brown, and black (which is gorgeous), and blue and white; others are solid colors like black and hot pink.

Also, gloves are used for digital penetration, dental dams are used for oral sex, and condoms are used for anal penetration, which is wonderful to see in any porn.

Title: Hard Love
Tagline: “Carnal Dyke Lust, Fiery Drama, & Passionate Hardcore Sex!!!”

Writer & Director: Shar Rednour
Cast: Jackie Strano, CC Belle, Tina D’Elia, and Johnny Fremont

Length: 51 minutes
Year: 2000

Synopsis

A dyke drama-licious tale of ex-lovers Jaz (Jackie Strano) and Renee (CC Belle) and their final goodbye sex, or possibly make-up sex, or possibly… whatever it ends up being, that we don’t really see. Jaz is now with Talia (Tina D’Elia), and Renee is with Devon (Johnny Fremont), so we get to see them with their respective honeys, but Renee is moving and has solicited the help of her old flame Jaz. Of course, Talia has something to say about this, and Renee doesn’t use the fact that Jaz is coming over to stop her from fooling around with Devon. Once all the dust clears we have Jaz and Renee packing up Renee’s things and reminiscing about old times, which, of course, leads to more sex.

Scene-by-scene

We start with Jaz and Talia, going right into the fucking, no back story, no information except for these two black-clad people fucking on a gorgeous wooden kitchen island. The chemistry between the two is unmistakable, which is what I really go for in any porno. If the chemistry is good then the scenes are worth watching.

The scene cuts to Renee and Devon coming in to Renee’s apartment, after lamenting having no time to do anything because she needs to pack Devon talks Renee into doing a strip-tease for him. It’s very cute and very cheesy, and when Marla and I watched it together we were amused at the cheesyness and how much the dialogue sounded like a conversation we would have. Renee strips down from her “corporate drag” until she’s in nothing but stockings, a garter, and panties.

Before long she has Devon’s cock out from under his chaps and jeans and is sucking it with extreme close-ups such as above. While a lot of the shots are acceptable, the extreme close-ups were not appealing, they were just too close and not really sexy at all. Luckily it continually switched between different viewpoints, but every time it got so close we both were taken out of the storyline.

The other shots that really irked us while watching were the two above. Separately they would be fine, but they switched between those two views as if they were the same scene and Renee wasn’t in a radically different position in each of them. I realize the reason for this, to give a better shot of the big black Vixen Creations cock, but it was still irritating to watch. However, it didn’t take away too much from the movie as a whole, but it was enough to mention.

Cock riding changes into some doggy-style fingering (with gloves on) after which Renee convinces Devon to give her a strip-tease since she gave him one and turnabout is, as they say, fair play. I was a big fan of this butch strip-tease, done in a very casual and teasing manner, you can tell that both actors were enjoying themselves. Moving from chaps to jeans to tighty whities and plain white tank top and just tighty whities and cock sticking out.

Devon crawls back onto the bed with Renee before the scene cuts back to Jaz and Talia, giving us more of that extreme close-up with Talia this time as we watch some delicious mutual masturbation. At least the extreme close-ups don’t last for too long in this scene either, and we get to watch Jaz jacking off with a cock that looks suspiciously like Brando.

Once they’re finished the drama begins, and we learn that Jaz is supposed to go help her ex (Renee) move, and now the plot starts falling in to place. There’s bickering and fighting that’s all too realistic and Jaz is heading out the door when he changes his mind and turns around, heading to where Talia is taking a bath and jumping in with her fully clothed, which I found incredibly sweet and cheesy, which seems to be a theme.

After a zig-zag swipe (kinda like a star swipe but different) we come back to Renee and Devon, seeming to pick up where the last shot of them left off, and not a moment later Jaz bursts through the door. Devon promptly high-tails it so that Renee and Jaz can have a nice drama-licious fight. After much yelling and back-and-forth things settle down to packing up Renee’s stuff, proving that Jaz is still her bitch… er… butch, her butch. That’s it, yeah.

Of course, the calmer atmosphere post-fight is conductive to some sweet goodbye/make-up/break-up/something-or-other sex, which was predictable and I groaned as they started reminiscing and touching, the obvious signs that sexing was on the way.

It starts sweet, and just like every other pairing there is obvious chemistry and feelings flying between them. They strip each other while laying in to it with a mix of passion and remorse for the relationship they once had, it’s pretty emotional which I found surprising to find in a porno. There is some gloveless fingering, the only we see in either of the movies, and before long Renee is scooting back to the edge of the bed.

Not only do we see the only gloveless fingering in the movies, but we also see the only anal sex, perhaps showing just how connected they are, able to engage in such an intimate act. It is sexy and intimate, a great farewell to a great relationship.

Title: How to Fuck in High Heels
Tagline: “Outrageous Sex-Ed, Serious Stilettos, Scorching Dirty Talk, & Daring Babedick Action!”

Director: Jackie Strano
Cast: Shar Rednour, Josephine X, Simone, and Chester Drawers.
Interview/Photo Shoot Cast: Lady Lite, Jamie Ben-Azay, Nicole Katler, Edrie Sachade, Veronica Savage, and Arty Fischel.

Length: 36 minutes
Year: 2000

Synopsis

Based on a performance piece by Shar Rednour in which she explains how to fuck in high heels and the virtues of doing so. Includes a recording of her performance piece spliced with an “interview” of the cast and crew. After the interview and performance piece is over we get three delicious scenes of Shar Rednour calling the shots in gorgeous lingerie, flawless make-up, glitter, and high heels to die for.

Scene-by-scene

The first 10 or so minutes is Shar’s performance piece spliced with an “interview” of the cast and crew of How to Fuck in High Heels. The interview is clearly satirical and pretty amusing.

The first scene is between Shar and Simone in which Shar is sporting a glittery red bra, a gorgeous red cock and the matching red glittery Wonder Woman Harness by Aslan Leather, both of which I immediately wanted to reach into the screen and have for myself.

After an impressive blowjob and some titfucking during which Shar is leaning against a ladder looking very sexy–a necessary sex accessory according to her performance piece–the positions switch to Shar fucking Simone from behind wearing a camo bikini top, a thin black leather harness, and a thick teal, brown, and black marbled cock (you’ll have to get the movie to see that one, but trust me when I say it’s GORGEOUS).

Simone is also gorgeous in her hot pink babydoll that looks lovely against her skin, and knee-high black leather boots with impressive heels. In case you haven’t noticed I’m highlighting the lingerie, heels, and cocks that are displayed because it’s pretty much necessary in a piece called How to Fuck in High Heels.

Here we get start getting used to Shar’s almost constant stream of dirty talk, which was unexpected and somewhat annoying at first until I was used to it. She uses her dirty talk to make sure to keep her Top energy going through every moment of her scenes, helping her bottoms do exactly what she wants, and making sure her bottoms are in the right headspace, which is the mark of a truly good Top.

The next scene finds Shar back against that ladder again, looking fabulous while she gets her pink and black cock sucked by Chester Drawers and her shiny vinyl buckle-laden high heeled boots shined by two dutiful butches, busting the worn Butch Top/femme bottom stereotype easily with the way she commands them both.

We switch to Shar laying gracefully on a bed with great see-through spike heels which she promptly instructs Chester to suck, giving us a good taste of high heel worship and then feet worship while he then moves on to lick and suck her well manicured toes. Of course a movie about High Heels must include some shoe and feet worship.

This was the only part of the movie that didn’t quite jive with me. While seeing Chester sucking and licking on the heel of her shoe was mildly sexy when he moved on to the toes it dropped in sexyness. Not to say there’s anything wrong with some feet worship if you’re in to that, but it doesn’t turn me on.

Finally, we cut to Chester lying down while Shar works him up to taking her gloved hand inside of him while he continues to lick and suck her toes. Her dirty talk is continuing throughout all of this, of course, and the look in Chester’s eyes is one of submission and really a beautiful sight to see.

Our introduction to Josephine is in a brief interview clip before getting down and dirty. We meet a curly-haired pink-clad tattooed and pierced woman who is a “recent convert to the Shar Church of High Heels” and proud of it. She is passionate and enthusiastic as well as adorable and that all comes through in her scene with Shar.

They start off with some oral sex with a dental dam, showing that with enough lube dental dams can be sexy and show everything while making sex safer. They move to some combined analingus and cunnilingus, switching between the two and getting Josephine worked up to take Shar’s cock.

Shar straps on a black and white marbled Nexus, a double-ended dildo made for strap-on play, along with the still gorgeous Wonder Woman Harness and lays down so Josephine can straddle her and ride her cock. This makes it clear that Josephine is covered in glitter, matching Shar’s harness and her own pink glitter collar wonderfully.

They decide Josephine should have something a little bit bigger, and since Shar has a hot pink cock that matches Josephine’s collar that seems to be the perfect cock for her. Throughout the entire scene they swap dirty talk wonderfully, and it’s clear that they both enjoy each other quite a bit.

In the final scene the tables turn and Shar is the one taking a marbled blue and white cock from Josephine while they both wear matching silver glittery heels and Josephine is sporting a gorgeous silver glittery harness, absolutely femmetastic. Part way through the scene a rosy glow comes over them, literally, like you can see in the image above.

The image fades with the pair still fucking away, and the credits roll for both the movies. Overall Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels definitely met and exceeded the expectations I’ve been building of it over the past half-dozen years since I first saw it. It was cheesy (though I like cheesy), and the camera work wasn’t the best I’ve ever seen, but the connections between actors and the sexy, well, everything was enough to keep me hooked until the end.

Much thanks to Babeland for sending me Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels! Coming soon, Sugar High Glitter City.

Sinclair says: “I’m told she already has about half of her subjects, but needs more, and that the majority of the women she’s interviewed are in their 50s and 60s. C’mon, twenty- and thirtysomethings, represent!”

RESEARCHER LOOKING FOR LESBIAN AND BISEXUAL WOMEN TO INTERVIEW BY PHONE ABOUT BUTCH/FEMME IDENTITIES.

Lesbians and bisexual women have used the terms “butch” and “femme” for over one hundred years but the meanings of these terms are vague and complex. I am looking to interview women about what butch and femme means to them, including women who don’t like these terms or don’t use these terms. I will focus on women in specific age groups (20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and over 50), those who are single and in relationships, in rural and urban settings, and from diverse ethnic and racial groups. I will ask interviewees the following questions:

• Describe what the terms “butch” and “femme” mean to you. What are some characteristics of a butch and a femme woman? How important or valuable are these terms to you?
• How are conceptions of butch/femme similar to or difference from conceptions of masculine/feminine?
• How do you think your lesbian/bisexual communities view butch and femme? Is there a difference between lesbian and bisexual women in how butch or femme they are or supposed to be?
• How do you think mainstream heterosexual society views lesbians or bisexual women that are butch or femme? How are butches versus femmes accepted by families of origin, in the workplace, as mothers? Are hate crimes directed at women based on masculine appearance or attributes?
• How would you describe yourself in butch/femme terms? Has your self-identity about being butch/femme changed over time? In what ways? Are there situations where you feel more butch or femme? What are they?
• Do you currently have a lover? Describe your lover in butch/femme terms. How is this similar to or different from previous lovers? Are you attracted to women based on certain physical or personality characteristics? If so, how are these related to someone being butch or femme? How is being butch or femme related to sexual activity?
• Describe which household tasks you and your lover do, and who does which tasks. (If children) describe which childcare tasks you and your lover do, and who does which tasks.
• How does being butch/femme fit in with feminism? With being queer? With being transgender?
• In what ways are conceptions of butch/femme related to power and control?
• Is there anything else you want to say about butch/femme identities and roles?

Please email me at erothblu@mail.sdsu.edu and let me know something about yourself and how butch/femme identities figure in your life. Thanks for your interest!

Esther Rothblum, Professor of Women’s Studies, San Diego State University

Femme–an identity that has caused controversy, celebration and ridicule–is now the topic of a two-volume set from Homofactus Press and editor Jennifer Clare Burke titled Visible: A Femmethology. Femmethology calls the LGBTQI community on its own prejudice and celebrates the diversity of individual femmes. Award-winning authors, spoken-word artists, and totally new voices come together to challenge conventional ideas of how disability, class, nationality, race, aesthetics, sexual orientation, gender identity and body type intersect with each contributor’s concrete notion of femmedom. - from femmethology.com

This month of April marks something I’ve been waiting for quite some time: the Femmethology virtual blog tour! Today is lucky enough to be my day, and so I’m sharing some of my feelings and insights related to the Femmethology. Visit Daphne Gottlieb tomorrow for her day, and all the sites at the bottom of the post on their days.

First, a little about the Femmethology:
Visible: A Femmethology

Femmethology is essential—a roadmap of Femme Nation, an index, an anthropology, a manifesto, and a googleology. – Dorothy Allison

Visible: a Femmethology is a two-volume anthology of essays revolving around femme identity.

I’ve been discovering and embracing my multigendered identity lately, but in that multigendered identity there is a solidly femme identity as well, which these books helped me remember.

Not that I had forgotten my femme identity, I just had been focusing more consciously on my fagette identity than my femme because it was new and in a way easier to focus on because it’s more visible (though only slightly). The identities in no way are opposites, they are complimentary, but they are also different. Reading through the Femmethology in a way re-connected me with my femme identity.

The biggest benefit of the Femmethology, in my opinion, is that it helps remind us that we are not alone as femmes. While some of us have many femme friends and a wonderful support system the rest of us do not and we have to navigate the world without much reassurance and reminders that there are so many of us out there feeling the same things. This is one of the reasons I started The Femme’s Guide in the first place, to emphasize that there are many of us out there, and while we’re all different we are also all the same.

I was moved many times throughout the two volumes. There were authors I knew well or moderately well, from various avenues such as Sinclair Sexsmith, Sassafras Lowrey, and Tara Hardy. There were many other authors that I didn’t know anything about, but I was able to get to know something about them through their stories.

Many stories touched me to the core, rocked me, and left me dazed and contemplating my own stories and my own identities.

I feel that Visible: A Femmethology is not just a book or anthology meant to be read, though it certainly is that as well, it’s also a look into each of these femme’s lives and voices, an adventure into different types of femme-ininity and different experiences that all somehow are similar because of this identity we all embrace and inhabit. It shows the vastness of femme while also showing what unites us.

It screamed “you are not alone” to me right when I needed it.

From the Introduction to the anthology: “Femme means I won’t compromise on complexity. … Above all, my femme is not your femme, which is the good news. … Femme means my sexuality, my partner choices, my definitions and my gender presentation might not match your labels.”

You can order Volume 1 and Volume 2 through the fabulous Homofactus Press.

You can also hear Sinclair Sexsmith reading his Love Letter to Femmes!

Check out the blogs below on the associated dates to learn more about the Femmethology volumes:
4/1. Sugarbutch Chronicles
4/2. Ellie Lumpesse
4/3. Queer-o-mat
4/4. CyDy Blog
4/6. Catalina Loves
4/7. cross-post: The Femme’s Guide and Femme Fagette
4/8. Daphne Gottlieb
4/9. Bilerico Project
4/10. Screaming Lemur: Femme-inism and Other Things
4/13. The Femme Hinterland
4/14. Bochinche Bilingüe: Borderlands Writing and The Vagina Adventures
4/15. Dorothy Surrenders
4/16. Miss Avarice Speaks Her Mind
4/17. The Femme Show
4/19. Sexuality Happens
4/20. Queer Fat Femme
4/21. Sublimefemme Unbound
4/22. Tina-cious.com and Jess I Am (butch-femme couple day!)
4/23. FemmeIsMyGender
4/24. The Lesbian Lifestyle
4/25. Femme Fluff
4/26. Weldable Cookies
4/27. The Verbosery
4/28. A Consuming Desire and Creative Xicana
4/29. Queercents
4/30. en|Gender

Whenever I mention I am going to make curry bake on twitter I always have people asking me about what’s in it and how to make it, especially after I made it for Kyle and he raved about it on his blog (it may be the cure to hangovers according to him).

The sauce is rich, thick, flavorful, and creamy. The vegetables perfectly paired and the cheese adds a strange but delicious accent to the already delicious curry. It is one of our comfort foods and perfect for a casual or fancy dinner at home, to make for one, two, many, or to take to a potluck and, of course, the more you make the more meals you can enjoy it for. It doesn’t usually last long in our house, though.

It’s really very simple, the recipe is one I got from a very dear friend and have made it many times over the last few years. Both my partner Onyx and I are big fans of curry and this is our favorite home-made curry dish.

The only problem with sharing the recipe is that I don’t measure the ingredients! I put in enough veggies and quorn to fill the dish, make enough sauce to coat it all, and flavor the sauce to taste, so this will be less precise cooking and more whatever works for you. It’s easy to add things like different veggies I haven’t listed, I sometimes include zucchini for example, or you could omit something that you don’t like.

Ingredients:
1/2 a Yellow Onion
Broccoli
Cauliflower
Potatoes (red, yellow, and gold – or whatever you prefer)
Quorn Chicken Tenders (real chicken would probably work fine, though I’ve never made it with it and you might then want to cook it first?)
1 can Coconut Milk
1 to 2 cups vegenaise
Curry Powder
Salt and pepper
Cheese

Preheat oven to 400 degrees.

In a large baking dish (I usually use a 13 x 9 x 2 glass/pyrex dish) combine veggies cut into small pieces and frozen quorn chicken, approximately equal amounts of chicken, broccoli, cauliflower, and potatoes though you can add more/less of some if you wish. I usually use a somewhat equal amount of red, yellow, and gold potatoes with skins for added color, usually one or two each depending on how big they are.

In a bowl combine can of coconut milk with vegenaise and whisk to combine. Mixture should be fairly thick. Vegenaise encourages the sauce to thicken when baked, though I’m unsure what could be substituted for vegenaise.

Add curry powder, salt, and pepper to coconut milk/vegenaise mixture to taste. I use approximately 1 1/2 or 2 tablespoons of curry powder and a dash of salt and pepper. The more curry powder used the stronger it will taste, obviously. Can also add garam masala, garlic powder, or some cayenne pepper to give it a bit of kick. The flavor is completely up to you, so I suggest you play around with it.

Cover veggies and etc. with the curry powder sauce, stirring once to be sure to coat everything.

Bake in 400 degree oven for 30 minutes. After 30 minutes stir it carefully and test potatoes for firmness. Cook until potatoes are done or easily pierced with a fork (usually about 15 minutes longer).

Cover with a sprinkling of cheese, I usually use cheddar or a cheddar/pepperjack mixture from Tillamook. Wait for it to cool a little, and enjoy!

This recipe can easily be made vegan by omitting the cheese and quorn chicken (has rehydrated egg white in it) or using vegan cheese.

-Scarlet Lotus

The image to the left (if you’re reading this on the site itself) changes when the page is refreshed. Currently there are six different images rotating, and I want more. These images are ones that I’ve found which in some way embody femme to me. Since femme is such a varied and personal identity I’m asking for your help in adding further images.

The only restrictions on the images is that they either have to be your own or under a Creative Commons License or otherwise legal to be used in the layout.

Under each image I have included the link to the photographer as well as Creative Commons information. If your image does not include information about where you got it I will not be able to use it.

The images also must be relatively safe for work. While we do talk about sex and sexuality on the site and occasionally (though rarely) have NSFW images I’d like to keep the layout images as close to safe for work as possible, though that idea differs for different people. Basically I don’t want to see nipples, genitals, etc. clothed is acceptable.

Other than that, anything that represents femme to you is acceptable!

Send your image to femmesguide AT gmail DOT com with the following information:

Who is the photographer/owner of this image?
Is there a URL I can credit the image to (your blog/portfolio/etc. if yours, the page on flickr or elsewhere where the image can be found, etc.)?
Is this image available under a Creative Commons License?

I will email you when your image is live on the site!

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I’ve been thinking a lot about size in general, both big and small and everywhere in between. Chicory (who I met face-to-face and is fantastic!) and I have been conversing about it, via email, comments, and in our meeting yesterday, and inspired by Thursday’s Child’s Sex and Intimacy Project I want to pose some questions to all of you.

Size acceptance is coming to be an issue I am passionate about. I’ve forever had the same hangups as, well, just about everyone in this culture. The same negative feelings towards my size. Though it’s important to distinguish between health and size, even though our society does not really view it that way. We are told that thin equals healthy and fat equals unhealthy, though I know plenty of thin people who eat much much worse than I do, and yet. But I digress.

The questions I want to pose have to do with the intersection of size and sexuality in your life. They may have no intersection at all, or you may have never thought of the intersection, but either way I want to hear about it. This may seem obvious, but the most interesting aspect, I believe, will be to see how everyone differs and what similarities there are, as well as being able to get a glimpse of the person within their answers.

Weight and size are touchy subjects in our culture, as is sexuality. Both have to do with the body and have moral judgments thrust upon them. Both are aspects of the self that are extremely personal and also that have strong cultural expectations and meanings. Both affect the way we present ourselves and think about ourselves.

The Size & Sexuality Study is a series of interviews highlighting real people’s answers to the questionnaire below. At the end of the posting of interviews (end date not known) I will post my own reactions to the study as well as my own answers, and how reading the feelings and thoughts of all these interesting and informative people has affected me over the space of the study.

Want to answer the questions? Fill out the questions below and send them to me: scarletsexgeek AT gmail DOT com

In order for these interviews to be what I would consider successful I need you to be completely honest. This is about real people talking honestly about their bodies and their sexuality, recognizing what society tells us about our bodies and recognizing how that affects our own ideas about how we should or should not act. If you wish you thought one way but really think another I want to hear that, not just what you wish you thought.

The focus of these questions are not just on large/fat/plus-sized women, I’m interested in answers from everyone of all sizes, all genders, all sexes, and so on. If you want to answer them, please do!

Feel free to skip any of the general info questions you are not comfortable answering, but please do answer all of the others. The more in-depth the answers the better, but in-depth and lengthy are not always the same thing (though they can be).

General Info
Name (what you’d like to be called):
Age:
Gender identity and presentation:
Sexual identity:
Relationship status:
Blog/Website (if you have one):

Size & Sexuality
What size is your body (you can use dress/pant sizes, a general description, anything you’re comfortable with, though remember that not all terms mean the same thing to the same people.)?
How comfortable are you with your body both in general and your body size specifically?
How has your relation with and attitude toward your body and the size of your body changed over time?
How important is sexuality to your life?
How has your relation with and attitude toward your sexuality changed over time?
How comfortable are you with expressing yourself and your body sexually?
How comfortable is society with the idea of viewing your body as sexual?
Through answering these questions and/or thinking about your relation to your body and your sexuality, have you noticed any links or similarities between the two? If so, what?
Anything else you would like to add?

Feel free to ask any questions you may have in the comments or via email, but please don’t answer the questionnaire in the comments. sizeandsexuality AT gmail DOT com

I have already started posting the interviews:
One: luna[KM]
Two: icecoldbath

-Scarlet Lotus

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Here are the rules.

1. YOU MUST BE 18 OR OLDER TO PARTICIPATE IN THIS CONTEST. Please include a photo of you holding up your ID (with date of birth clearly readable) along with your photo submission.

2. Photo can be of anything, but it has to include YOU and a symbol of your definition of “queer.” You do *not* have to be naked, however you are also free to be as naked as you like, and doing anything you like in the photo just as long as it is legal!

3. Please use your own ideas, we’re looking for something unique and one of a kind! We are looking for photos that have emotional content – we want to look at the photo and say, “Oh! This is what ‘queer’ means to this person!”

4. Please fill out the additional questions on the form, such as how you took the photo, what gave you the idea, and what your definition of “queer” is.

Models, members, and fans are all eligible to win. Photos must be self-shot or self-directed, and taken specifically for this contest. Photos from a professional photo set probably wont win this one!

If you are ready to enter this contest, please fill out the submission form now!

Submission Form
Contest Home Page

Good Luck!

xo Trouble