ladies, gents, or none of the above:

i have to take a survey.  is anyone else anxious with anticipation for more word on the mr. man dildo or is it just this femme over here whose been up way past her bedtime several nights over the past few weeks considering the crazy joy it will bring?  ever since always aroused girl’s (aag) tantilizing review of mr. man a few months ago it’s, frankly, been hard to shake its image and potential out of my head. a silicone cock that claims to work with the naughty bits of anyone female-bodied allowing for a simulated blow job experience?! oh, *and* you can fuck with it too?? is this too good to be true or what?!

i’ll be perfectly honest. a love of giving blow jobs to cute butches and genderqueer boys of all sorts is what has me so damn excited. there are few things hotter to me than looking up at some handsome, queer butch, genderqueer, or transmasculine folk and locking eyes when your tongue and mouth are on their dicks, i do declare! i mean, blow jobs in the past have hardly been lackluster (can they really ever be?), but the potential for clit stimulation in the midst of hot and heavy cocksucking has me chomping at the bit. …oof! bad phrasing, maybe.

i’ve been so anxious for mr. man’s arrival at my local feminist sex toy shop - lucky for me it will be one of the first stores to stock mr. man - that i emailed the manufacturer, jollies, last week to get more deets about an ETA. i know, i know! i’m a woman possessed! after receiving my note (and the barrage of questions it contained), luze, the ceo of jollies, was kind enough to tell me that mr. man should be “out for production” what would now be later this week or early next week. retail value is estimated at being around $89, though there wasn’t an answer yet to my question of whether or not the first version of mr. man will be harness compatible.  aag’s blog post seemed to suggest that harness compatibility might be a feature only of a future model, while the the xbiz article posted above seems to say that the first version will be harness compatible. i’m obviously hoping for the latter.

i’ve brought mr. man up in conversation a few times lately with friends and while it has spawned interest and curiosity, it has also been surrounded by questions of logistics and whether or not mr. man will fit or take into account the different kinds and sizes of parts we all have in our knickers. so what do we think, y’all? does the mr. man sound too good to be true? does it sound like an absolute dream? do we think it’ll work? have the prayers of female-bodied folks and their blow-job-loving partners been answered?

someday soon, hopefully very soon, i will have the answer and be able to hand them off to you. in the meantime, i’m dying to know if i’m the only optimistic person out here tappin’ my foot for mr. man’s arrival in my hometown.

I’ve been thinking a lot about femme cock lately, ever since I posted on the subject. I haven’t only been thinking about the acquisition of one, however, but also what it means to have a femme cock, and what it means that my cock is femme. On one hand, it’s a very minuscule difference. I mean, what does it matter if my cock is femme, butch, genderqueer, a dildo, or any other label that I put on it? It’s still a cock, right? It’s still a piece of silicone. On the other hand, cocks are not thought of as femme or feminine. Cocks are, as we generally associate them with males, usually considered a masculine item.

So, what does it really mean to have a femme cock? What’s the big deal? For one thing, when a cock is strapped on it is pretty much assumed that the strapper is masculine in some way. While there are many people who do not make this assumption I would say that the overwhelming majority do. Though it does seem like pegging (female penetrating a male with a strap on) has been getting more popular lately with videos like Bend Over Boyfriend and lots of beginner strap-on kits popping up all over the place. Even then, however, the penetrator is still thought of as taking on the masculine role even if the penetrator isn’t thought of as masculine.

Penetration is nearly always considered a masculine act, even if done by a feminine body. Rarely do you see a dildo called Felicity or Sophia, instead we see Leo, General, Magnum, and Throb. That’s not to say that there aren’t female-named dildos like Goddess, Mistress, Wanda, and the ever delightful Vicky Venus, but they are nowhere near as common as the others. There have always been vibrators with feminine names, because they are trying to appeal to their target audience, but if you delve into the realm of “realistic” dildos… well, I’ll just say I have yet to see a dildo marketed as realistic named anything feminine (though there could be one or two, I can’t claim to have seen all the dildos in the world). I’m not saying that they should be more common, I wouldn’t make that call, but I am saying that thinking of a dildo as feminine or thinking of penetration as a feminine act is not common.

But what does it really mean for a femme to have a cock, or for a femme to pack? There are infinite ways in which a femme can pack, and an infinite number of reasons and desires which can come out of packing/having a cock. I can’t help but think of an excerpt from The Leather Daddy and the Femme when thinking about femme cock, and the infinite possibilities:

It was lavender silicone and not shaped like a cock at all. It wasn’t even meant to be a cock, on her. She never got especially turned on to cocks–but strapping on something to fuck with, something that let her pin me to a bed or a wall and let her cunt-energy come exploding out of her and into my cunt or asshole, she liked that just fine. [...] She didn’t think of it as a cock so I didn’t either, but I sure did take it seriously.

This is part of the way I think of my cock, I declare it as a cock but I don’t think of it as a cock but as an extension of my cunt, which is also why I’m not very attracted to realistic-looking cocks for my own personal cock. I wouldn’t be against a realistic-looking (and feeling) cock in my collection, but that wouldn’t be my main cock.

The more I read in The Leather Daddy and the Femme the more I work with and figure out my own gender queerness. My sexuality is so tied in with my gender, and it’s interesting to have this lovely femme woman as well as a butch boi within me, both aching to get out and both who desire to wear a cock.

This brings me back to the question: what does it mean? Obviously, it can mean a lot of different things depending on who is wearing the cock and who is viewing/feeling the cock. Is there a big difference between someone who embraces femme packing or strapping on than someone who embraces butch? I think there is. That’s not to say that the same meaning couldn’t be applied to the cock or the wearing of the cock in both cases, because it could be, but there would still be a difference. What would that difference be, I’m not entirely sure. Something I’ll have to think on more and get back to you.

-Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek

Here is my first experience with packing.  I’ll write up a shiny How To Pack as a Femme guide in the future, but this is just to whet your appetite.  Plus, I’m strapped on with a cock, and really does it get any better than that?

Enjoy!

-Essin’ Em

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